Sadie Bingham, MSW, LICSW
  • New Baseline

    Trade your busy life for a full one.

    As a recovering perfectionist, I learned early on that I was rewarded when I produced and performed.

    My propensity to overdo it is incredibly strong. I am so willing to take any scraps thrown my way. When I do this, I am no longer staying true to an intentional simplified life.

    Time and time again, I will take on projects, side jobs, become certified in one area, and licensed in another, to the point of exhaustion.

    My ability to excel can also provide the greatest setback to my wellbeing.

    My pattern of hustling towards worthiness is so ingrained in my personality, I can hardly see when it is happening. I ask a lot from the Universe and when opportunities land in my lap, I believe I was meant to pursue them. So I burn myself out in my attempts to do it all. It’s a vicious cycle that doesn’t expose itself until I am on the brink of a breakdown.

    I practice Law of Attraction and believe firmly that I have created a Life of Abundance. But what happens when life is giving you too much abundance? Aren’t you supposed to seize this opportunity? Not so fast.

    They are called “tricksters” and can be thought of as opportunities, but are really distractions that take you off course.

    There are times in my life when my hustle has paid off. And there are times when it’s all wrong. The only thing I know to be true: follow that feeling inside my body. Because maybe this is just part of finding my way? What other option do I have? Sometimes we agree to something and we think it’s truly in alignment with our values and goals. And it turns out not to be. We learn from this and become sharper at finding that feeling the next time.

    The biggest trigger for overdoing it comes in my professional life. My habitual patterns take over as I hustle, perform and produce. Then I come home and have nothing else to give. My soul starts to dry up. As someone who has honed in on what it feels to live simply – it becomes very clear to me when I am not in alignment with my values. So I have a mini-meltdown. Then I talk to my mom, talk to my sister, monopolize marriage counseling, and have lady sleepovers.

    Since moving out of the city and reducing the number of things I commit to, I have a new baseline. My life has intentionally become simpler – full of what I love: leisure time, physical activity, human & canine connection, and being with nature. There was a moment last month where I became annoyed that I couldn’t just grin and bear it. I became annoyed that I couldn’t keep up with a temporary fast pace lifestyle. Then I knew – that it was actually a good sign. It takes less of the crazy-making to become painfully obvious that I am not cut out for it, it’s not for me, no thank you. I spent my twenties hustling, producing, and performing. I will spend my thirties slower, saner, and simplified.