“To live is the rarest thing in the world. Most people exist, that is all.” – Oscar Wilde
oung adult life, I understood myself to be a Type A Perfectionist. Desiring above all else, to do things perfectly in any pursuit. A major disadvantage with the need to be perfect is that I became risk-averse. Constantly making “safe” decisions where I knew I would succeed but ultimately handicapping other important life skills. Like the major ones of grit, resiliency, and confidence.
Another consequence of perfectionism is denying the process of learning to follow my instincts.
Instead, I was always looking externally for confirmation instead of relying on my internal guide. As I have gotten older, I have become more adventurous. An adventurous life means taking major risks.
While becoming willing to take on risk feels terrifying most of the time, on the bright side, there is the thrill and excitement. The riskier you are, the more you must believe in yourself. To grow and evolve as humans, we need to get out of our comfort zones. Our reflex is to pull back into our clam shells that will keep us alive a bit longer, but what kind of life is that? It’s suffocating.
Another great metaphor is the butterfly wrangling its way out of the cocoon, and if you have ever watched this actually happen, that sucker is working its ass off to get out of that cocoon. Somewhere deep inside the soul of the butterfly, it knows it has to move on from that cozy, albeit, suffocating cocoon.
Taking risks has shown me, I am so much more than my fears. I actually named my fear, that tends to accompany me on most outings, as Fiona. Her main job is to keep me safe from home. I do appreciate she is coming from a good place but I rather prefer she be in the passenger seat and observe, as I stumble along, occasionally getting scratched up.
Because the truth is, to be alive is vulnerable no matter how hard we search for security.
When we choose to come to this Earth (however it happens) we chose Life. This includes its pains, its sufferings, it’s fears and its joys, it’s exhilaration and its evolution.